Why your wedding day shouldn’t be your ‘best day’
It is hard enough in this life to find someone that you want to wake up to every single morning but now this person has to also be your forever love and fulfill all your needs until the end of time?
When people say things like ‘I promise I will love you forever’ or ‘Happily ever after’ or ‘The day I married you was the best day ever’, it makes me question things.
Bear with me for the next part:
As we know, majority of you will divorce, majority will be unhappy (well, hence, the divorce stats), majority of you will fall in love with other people while in a relationship. I am not saying that to crap all over love. Not at all. I am a total sucker for romance and attraction and all things touchy-feely.
But why can’t we just celebrate love? Why do we need to put so much pressure on our partner, our relationship and ourselves to say that this is ‘happily ever after’, to say ‘this is eternal love’ bullshit.
Successful marriages can end in divorce too. We all know that. So let’s embrace relationships and the-now-love. Let’s make our partners feel amazing until we can’t/don’t want to anymore without proclamations like this is ‘forever’. It doesn’t have to be and that’s OK. It is just as beautiful.
If the best day of your life is your wedding day, well I am sorry. It is all downhill from there then? What about the day your partner got sick and you cared for them. The day you got your partner something that they really wanted and they felt so loved. The day you started having relationship problems and decided to be a team and work through it. Heck, the day you ordered your favourite asian takeaway and watched TV shows and cuddled?
You don’t fail if you break up or get divorced, you fail if you pressure your relationship into a corner, freak out the whole time and end up resenting yourself and your partner.
When I hear people speak about the ever wondeful feeling of love they experience, my heart melts. It doesn’t have to last forever, it doesn’t have to be promised, it doesn’t have to be anything. It just is, right now, right there.
